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post title background Respect Yourself to Find Love

I’ve had something on my mind lately, and I wanted to talk about it with you: Respect.

Can you say you respect yourself?

This question comes up in my work with clients, and I definitely talked about it in my book, The 5 Star Points of Success. But it’s also a question I ask myself when I’m taking a moment to check in with myself and connect with my spirit.

When I’m thinking about a word and what it means to me, I usually head for the dictionary. So, let’s see what “respect” means. Here are two definitions:

“A feeling of admiring someone or something that is good, valuable, important.”

“A feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc. and should be treated in an appropriate way.”

With those two meanings in mind, do you respect yourself?

So many people worry on a daily basis about not getting the respect they deserve. They point fingers at a boss, boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, children, friends. They find someone to blame for disrespecting them.

But is it really everyone else, or do you struggle with self-respect? Is it really everyone else being rude, abusive and disrespectful?

Maybe it is. But just humor me for a minute: Step outside the things that are being said and done to you for a moment and check in with yourself.

Let me give you a scenario: Someone is abusive to you. Someone curses at you, says mean things about you and belittles you.

What’s your response?

Maybe you say, “How dare you!” or “The nerve!” and call them out. Your reaction is probably to get upset.

Before you do that, think about it. Are the judgments they are making about you true? Probably not!

If these harsh judgments are not true, why are you allowing them to hurt you?

Maybe their words hurt because they sound a lot like the words going around in your own head about yourself. It probably hurts a lot to hear those words out loud!

If you’re having these negative thoughts about yourself, the real issue is probably that you think you’re not worthy.

The real issue is you think you are not worthy. And then, when your boss says you don’t deserve the raise, you totally flip out in anger. But is it just because they told you exactly what you are thinking?

In order to get respect you must give it. This is an old saying, but it is absolutely true. Respecting others is important, but life isn’t only about “doing until others as you want them to do unto you.” You have to “do unto yourself” as you want them to do unto you, too!

The actions we take and thoughts we think and how we respect ourselves will determine how other people will treat us.

So don’t you dare skip yourself when you’re looking for people to give respect to. The more respect you give to others AND to yourself, the more you’ll get back. When you respect yourself, you’ll feel that good energy flowing everywhere!

I’m not saying other people aren’t wronging you when they’re saying negative things about you. There’s definitely such a thing as slander and defamation of character, and it doesn’t only happen to people who don’t respect themselves or put out negative vibes. If you know all that good energy is flowing from you, and someone is still after you, the best defense is pretty simple: Respect yourself enough to live your life like the wonderful, talented person you know you are.

Here’s your Star Point for this week: Try a little self-respect! Know that your light is worth shining, and decide your purpose is to share your many gifts with the world. If you do, I guarantee that others will respect you. You’ll see your dreams come to you all over the place in both your personal life and your business!

This week’s Star Action: This one might be a little tough, but I promise you it’s worth it! Think of a situation you were in recently where you didn’t stand up for yourself. Write down what happened and how you responded … or how you DIDN’T respond.

Now, think of that same situation and write down a response you could’ve had that honors yourself and all the dreams you have for yourself. Even if sometimes it’s too late to go back and change the situation, just reflecting on it and identifying what you can do to show respect to yourself and honor your life’s purpose can help you learn from your mistakes and proceed with confidence the next time you are in a situation that dims your light. Never forget that you are worth it and you deserve respect!

Make sure to let me know what’s happening with you! Comment here, my Facebook page or YouTube channel. Spread the love by sending these messages to your friends!

And remember, Rays of Light … don’t let anyone or anything dim your light! Go out and Shine like the Star You Are!


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post title background Pass Gracefully Through The Pain

I have been thinking a lot lately about this phrase: “This too shall pass.”

Simply put, it means that everything we experience in this life, whether positive or negative, is temporary. But people usually say it to someone who is going through a painful time, whether physical, emotional or both!

Do you know where that phrase comes from?

I confess, I didn’t know for sure, so I did a little research, and it’s pretty interesting! It comes from writings by the medieval Persian poets. People often attribute it to an old fable about a king who is humbled when he hears those words said to him during a time of strife.

While that phrase can be humbling and put life into perspective, it can also make us feel a little frustrated when we are going through hard times. Whether you’re going through physical pain from an illness or injury, the emotional pain of grief and loss or something else that is making you hurt, sometimes it’s hard to see that the acute pain is temporary, that there is hope and things can get better.

If you are in a place of pain, I want to assure you, you can feel joy again! The best way to help you pass gracefully through this tough time and get on your way is to stay present, explore the source of your pain and move forward.

When you are working towards a heart-centered life, living out your purpose on this earth, there will be times you feel pain or discomfort. Sometimes, it will be so much, you will wonder how you can endure it.

But that pain can be a sign that you are standing right at the edge of revolutionary change. When you’re making a shift in your way of being, there are going to be some growing pains!

Please, DO NOT GIVE UP.

Stay focused. Check in with your dreams and your spirit. Imagine how marvelous you will feel when your dreams come true! Because, that is coming to you if you stay on your path! And that time when you know from the top of your head to the very tip of your toes that you are doing what you love and living out God’s plan for you is coming soon, so you cannot give up!

If this process of being the real you was easy, wouldn’t the whole world already be doing it by now? The fact that you are doing it is all that matters. You are strong and capable, and you have to see it through to the end!

If you are feeling emotional or even physical pain right now or in the future, “this too shall pass.”

If you are not sure, think about what it feels like when you start working out for the first time, or for the first time in a long time. You have soreness and pain at the beginning, but once you get into the groove, you are in the groove! And when you start seeing results? Well, it’s a lot smoother sailing, right?

So, this week and every week, when pain arises, stay present and involved in the process. And don’t forget to treat yourself with kindness and love!

There are going to be some bumps in the road towards manifesting your dream. You might catch a nail, get a flat tire or have to stop and ask for directions. But I know you can work through it and get back to steering yourself right to your dream destination!

This week’s star point: Take care of your spirit and take care of YOU. We all have pain, and we all get discouraged. We have moments when we need to take a step back and rest so we can build up our strength to keep pushing with all our might towards our heartfelt dreams.

This week’s star action: Pamper yourself! Even if it’s just for an hour or two, please take some time to do something that refills your soul. Go to the salon, do some shopping (even just some window shopping!), take a bath, take a nap, watch a movie or your favorite TV show, eat a good meal, rest, relax, unwind. We all need some “me time,” so let me give you the permission to take a breather so you are refreshed and ready to get back to work!

Now, what’s happening with you? Make sure you send me a message through my website or comment on my Facebook page or YouTube channel. I’d love to hear from you! You can also spread the love by sending this message to your friends!

And remember, Rays of Light … don’t let anyone or anything dim your light! GO OUT AND SHINE LIKE THE STAR YOU ARE!


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post title background HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EMOTIONS

Let’s Get Emotional

Like Whitney Houston sang in her song “So Emotional.”

Yes, “I get so emotional.”

Emotions are one of the cornerstones of my patented 5 Star Points system, and I believe they are allies. One of life’s greatest gifts is the ability to feel true emotion.

I’m sure you’ve heard emotions talked about in negative terms – even positive, big emotions that fill the world with joy are seen as obstacles!

Have you ever cried happy tears of joy or deep tears of sorrow, had an outburst of feeling and been told, “Oh, stop it! You’re just so emotional!” Our society sometimes teaches us to push feelings down – that they are “inconvenient” and get in the way of us staying on course and achieving our dreams. We are told that thinking with our head often beats thinking with our “hearts.”

 I’m here to tell you, you’ve been lied to! Your heart and your head can be the best of friends and help you achieve amazing things, and your emotions are a key ingredient in helping you live your life’s true purpose.

How can this be? Whether elation or sadness, emotions let us know we are alive and are capable of feeling deeply. Human beings share this beautiful capacity for feeling, and it makes us mighty! It gives us great strength.

 Of course, when you feel positive emotions like joy, it’s smooth sailing. You feel that happy goodness bubbling up and you celebrate!

 Talking about joy is easy though. What I want to talk about is those uncomfortable emotions that overwhelm you. What about sadness? Life isn’t perfect, so that’s bound to happen. Sadness isn’t easy to accept, is it? And when it comes calling, it’s easy to try to push it away and ignore it.

 I urge you to fight against that! When sadness comes, find that strength I know you have and face it. Explore why you’re sad, bask in it a little. Once you feel it, you’ll be able to move on. And you will move on!

 What if you can’t figure out what hurts? Sometimes we can have so much coming at us that we are pushing down that we get emotionally numb. We can’t even cry. We can’t find the release that helps us move on.

 I get really excited when I’m working with someone, and the tears start flowing. Why? Because that is when I can really help them connect to what’s going on inside them. That moment when you finally release those big, bad feelings of sadness is when you’re going to be able to finally understand your truth.

That moment when your emotions are running hot is when you are on the edge of taking a trip into your authentic spirit. It’s when you can unlock a secret part of your spirit, confront it and move forward.

Your emotions are where your energy lives! That energy is where you’re going to find what you need to build a rock-solid foundation rooted in the 5 Star Points that guide my life:  mind; body; spirit; emotions; environment. It’s in that foundation that you’re going to find your mission and your purpose on this earth – and be able to do what you’ve always dreamed.

Now, I want you to take a moment right now and think about a major issue you are going through in your life right now.

 Need an example? Maybe you hate your job, and you’re trying to decide whether to stay or go.

 Now, what are the facts of the situation? How does it make you feel? How is it directly affecting your day-to-day life?

 Once you can answer these questions, you will have the clues you need to turn your emotions into positive energy that can help you move forward and fix what ails you!

Remember that how you treat yourself as you’re getting through this challenge is the real issue. Take a deep look within yourself treat yourself with kindness as you work towards a solution. Embracing your emotions and letting them flow is how you’re going to find a way back on the road to living your life’s purpose.

I believe in you!

Let me know your thoughts and feelings on emotions. Comment and share with someone you feel this could inspire.

Also do not forget to tune in to THE OYA SHOW on YOUTUBE every week!

 


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  1. Jeffrey Nilan
    March 12, 2017 at 9:30 pm

    I ordered your workbook, but I left in the book store for others to view. The workbook is like a giant affirmation in the making for each reader/ learnier. May success continue to find you. Sincerely, Jeffrey Nolan.

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post title background BE KIND TO YOUR BODY

Blessings Rays of Light.

Ok, I’ve said it before, but it bears repeating: Your body is your temple. Something I’ve learned in my time on the earth is that n order to protect that temple and keep it healthy so you have the energy to get through each and every day feeling alive and well, you have to get on a schedule.

If you’re the creative type like me, you might naturally be a little more free-spirited than the rest of us, so the thought of keeping a schedule might not make you feel fantastic.

I’m going to level with you, though. In order to be at our best, no matter what dream we have for ourselves, we need to set up a schedule that lets us rest, eat right and exercise.

Why? Well, the physical body is a host to all your spirit’s fantastic work, so you need to be ready to get out there, create and live joyously! Trust me, I know that staying on a schedule is challenging and can even sometimes feel a little boring. I don’t work out every day, and sometimes I let a few things slide here and there. But I do the very best I can, and I do pretty well!

Even when you fall out of line, don’t despair! Go a little easy on yourself, make your way back to the gym, take a walk, go to yoga class or just get active ASAP so you can jump right back into that healthy groove.

I’m not going to lie: Maintaining a strong body is a commitment. It can also be a lifestyle change for some. It’s about being disciplined and practicing little healthy habits every single day. These little habits might seem little, but they add up! Better yet, they keep you feeling physically on top of the world, so you’re ready to pull the very best goodies out of your heart and soul.

If you’re wondering where to start, I can tell you something that seems small that I do that makes a huge difference. I made a commitment to always having nourishing food on hand at home. When I have food that makes me feel great at the ready, I always have a nutritious snack to re-energize me, even when I’m caught up in the creative process.

Now, I am lucky. I have an assistant who helps keep me on task and keeps me accountable when I am tempted to let my healthy body routine slide. When I think about ordering dinner instead of making myself something healthy that I have on hand or not eating at all, she supports positive choices. On the set of one of my videos, one of her main tasks was bringing me water, an apple or a banana during the day to keep me fueled up and feeling good.

Do you also find yourself not having time to make healthy choices? Make tending to your temple a regular habit! Keep a big jug of water in front of you, pack those snacks and set alarms to remind you if you are worried you’ll get wrapped up in something. You can even have a friend help make you accountable by reminding you for a bit until you get into a routine.

Maybe you’re thinking, “Who doesn’t remember to eat? Who needs all this jazz? I’m not a child!” But the fact that eating is a basic need is why we need to focus on it. If your body is not feeling powerful and in top form, how are you going to empower yourself to soar as high as I know you can go?

Your spirit and mind are counting on your body to be healthy so you can realize all those beautiful dreams of yours and fulfill your life’s purpose!

I wish you the best. Remember little habits can turn into a lifestyle. Choose Wisely!

Please comment and Let me know your your thoughts and healthy tips that you use.

Peace and Blessings :)


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post title background How to create a space that will bring abundance

Where do you call home? Does it bring you joy?

What you surround yourself with, what you look at each and every day when you walk through your hallways should all make you feel vibrant, alive and happy!

When your environment is a crazy mess, you can’t feel at peace. When everything in your home makes you think of doom and gloom, pressure and stress, how can you find room for joy?

I believe in the idea that your body is your temple. I also believe that your home is your sanctuary. When you go home, you should breathe a sigh of relief the second you step in the door after a difficult day. It is a safe place where you should feel at peace.

Are you just not a neat person? Hey – it happens. But I encourage you to try to adopt a neat-er way of being. It can save you from the stress of trying to find missing things.

I know cleaning is not the most fun thing on the planet, but doesn’t it feel great to walk into a clean home … especially your clean home? If you think about that magical feeling, it will inspire you to take steps in the right direction.

I say this from a place of love: I challenge you to start taking steps to create the home environment of your dreams – the one where you are surrounded by ONLY things that make you feel joyful and want to be at home and at peace. You can help your environment help YOU manifest all you want in life.

Do you feel like you’re at war with your home? Are things broken, dirty, a mess … do you have clutter and a lot of things you just don’t use anymore? You and your home have to be in this together, living a life of joy and abundance! You must be harmonious.

Maybe you want a bigger, more luxurious space. Maybe you feel like every day you’re just holding out hope for that to come to you. It’s fine to want more, but where you are today at this moment is what will lead you to tomorrow, next month, next year and the place and time where you can have the home of your dreams!

You need to know that even if all you have is a modest small rental unit or a room, that is enough! We all started somewhere. But you also need to know that whining about your small space isn’t going to do anything but take up your valuable time.

I don’t want to sound like your mother, but, you MUST be thankful for what you have. Appreciate it and remember that there are people who do not have a space at all to call their own. If you are inside, in a bedroom, living room or somewhere else with a roof and walls, listening to me talk to you, you have a space that is yours – one that you can use to make your life start to blossom.

In the same way you honor your body, the home inside which your spirit lives, you need to honor your home! Your home is where you will create and become the best you can be. It is where you will start to believe in yourself so much that you will be able to make wonderful creations! Eventually, you will outgrow your space as your dreams take shape and help you prosper.

Today, let’s give thanks for our space and make a commitment to fill it with joy!

Star Point for the Week: Clear that clutter! That can start right now: Think about one thing in your home environment that no longer brings you joy. We all have one. Do you have something you are keeping around — a gift from an old boyfriend or girlfriend, a big clunky piece of broken-down furniture that is collecting dust in the corner — that no longer makes your heart sing? We all have one! What’s yours?

Star Action for the Week: Think about that one thing that no longer brings you joy, that’s just taking up space, bringing up bad memories, filling up your home with bad vibes. I think you know where I’m about to go with this. GET RID OF IT. Make a move to keep your home full of joy so you can clear that clutter and make space for your dreams to grow and thrive, so you can finally break free and be exactly who you are meant to be!

Don’t forget to tell me about all that’s happening with you. Post your comment on my Facebook page or YouTube channel. Let’s talk!

And remember, Rays of Light … don’t let anyone or anything dim your light!


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post title background How to defeat the Fear Monster

All of us pull back from achieving our dreams from time to time, because we are just plain afraid. Our dreams are so precious to us that when we find ourselves in a place where we can act on them, we are afraid to push ahead. Those nasty, worrisome thoughts crowd up our heads. Fear can be your worst enemy!

Do any of the following questions sound familiar?

“What if it doesn’t work, and I’m left with nothing?”

“What if I go for my dreams and find out I’m not strong enough or don’t feel good enough to achieve them?”

“What if bullies judge me, ridicule me or make fun of me because they think my dream is silly?”

I’m here to tell you that everyone is afraid of failure. All of us believe, from time to time that if we fail at achieving our dreams, we’ll have nothing left to live for. This fear can paralyze you, but you don’t have to let it. You can find out what is blocking you and what is holding you back … and to give resistance a voice, so you can shut fear up right here and now!

Believe me, you can do this! There was a time when I could only fantasize about making my Spirit of Oya CD. I dreamed about it for three years, but just never made it happen. I was writing songs, singing my little heart out, and I even had people at gigs asking me if I had an album for sale. I had some valid reasons why I could not go after it during that time, but some of them were just excuses. The truth is, when you really want to do something, you will do it, fear or no fear.

Until I truly decided that I was going to get this album done, committed to the process and took the action steps needed to bring it to fruition, that album was just not going to happen. It was only after I felt the need to finally create my own album in my soul, my gut and in my bones that I honored it, came up with action steps and made it happen!

We often pull back when we are afraid, even when we are going after something we really want. You must be bold and set aside the fear and take the action steps to live what is in your heart.

Let’s get real. You’re going to keep feeling fear when you come up against challenges in your life, and there is no magic formula that’s going to get rid of it. But you can find ways to muster up the courage to do things in your life that is heartfelt – to get through challenges in order to live your ultimate purpose.

I believe with all my heart that you can let go of fear, connect with the love of what is most important to you and trust yourself to move forward.

You may have heard me talk about energy and how it flows through the universe. (I talk about it a lot!) Well, energy can be positive or negative. And that’s why you need to be careful of how you think. You can create a reality from what is in your mind – good or bad!

So, why would you want to wallow in negative nonsense or fear the worst when you have an amazing mind and an imagination that is capable of fantasizing about all of life’s incredible possibilities?

Here’s my challenge to you. Say your dream out loud. Go ahead. I’ll wait!

Now, say THIS out loud and really live with it: “I am manifesting my dream and living my life’s purpose.”

Now, step through that fear and go for it! What do you have to lose? Don’t let another day, week, month or year go by, trapped by your fear. Run away from that fear monster as fast as you can and towards being the best you possible!

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post title background How to be a good listener

Listening is probably one of the most important skills you can develop in both your personal and professional life. No matter what industry you’re in, you will need to be able to listen to your clients and what they want so you can use your gifts to fulfill their needs.

Have you ever had a bad experience with someone who lacks listening skills? Isn’t it FRUSTRATING? We’ve all been in the situation – when we’re trying to purchase a product or a service or even when we’re just trying to communicate to a friend or a romantic partner – where we talk, and nothing seems to get through. Our words aren’t heard and things really go nowhere!

When your clients come to you, I encourage you to listen to them. You’ll also need to listen for clues that tell you what they want and how you can help them manifest what they want. Not everyone is great at communicating what they need and want, so sometimes you have to be able to let your ears dig a little deeper!

At the end of the day, your clients just want to be heard. When they feel heard and know you genuinely care, you’ll win them over for life!

Listening is truly a skill. If you want ultra fabulous listening skills, you have to work hard at them!

Learn to access your caring, empathetic emotions. When you truly care, you will become a part of the project the new client or collaborator is asking you to join in on. You’ll both feel totally invested, at east with each other and on the same page from the get-go!

Listening skills aren’t only for listening to your clients, collaborators and other people in your life. They are also for listening to yourself. Without your emotions in play, any dream you have is not going to work!

I’m going to say something bold that might go against what you’ve learned: You are the most important person in your life.

Does this sound selfish? It’s not! So many of us are taught our whole lives that we are supposed to take care of everyone else before ourselves – that this selfishness is to be admired and celebrated.

Are you a natural caretaker, always putting everyone else’s thoughts, feelings and needs before your own? I’m here to give you permission to start thinking about YOU.

I know putting yourself first is not easy. People need you! But we all need to reprogram ourselves and realize that we cannot truly care for anyone else unless we are putting our needs and emotions FIRST.

How can you understand and respond to the physical needs of someone else if you haven’t even listened to and heard the voice inside you, connecting you to your own needs? Blindly putting others’ needs before our own will not get us anywhere!

I am absolutely not saying, “Be selfish! Think only of yourself!” No way! We are all in this life together. We are vibrant and engaged beings who need to listen to each other and respect others. Therefore, we can’t just adopt a “me, me, me” attitude and run over everyone who gets in our way.

All I’m saying is that you need to listen to yourself first and be conscious of your emotions and what you need in your life to be joyful and present, to live a life in which all your dreams come true.

This life is right there within you! Listen close to the voices that are telling you to go for your dreams and go out and live the way you were meant to live!

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.

Please make sure you check out THE OYA SHOW and subscribe on my youtube channel spiritofoya for more uplifting and positive messages to you be successful and shine like the star you are!


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post title background How to Celebrate You

How to Celebrate You!

I’m about to give you a powerful gift. Ready? I am giving you permission to celebrate YOU.

When was the last time you stopped running around and sat down to take stock of everything you’ve accomplished? If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably been running, running, running, pushing yourself to achieve, accomplish, reach your goals … and you probably haven’t taken much time to sit back and take a breath and recharge.

Maybe you feel like you’ve been running around like a chicken with your head cut off … or maybe you feel like you’re trying to live your dream but are coming up short. You might feel like you don’t “deserve” a break.

I definitely appreciate that I have the physical, mental, spiritual and emotional energy to run as much as I do, as it allows me to reach my goals, but there are times that we all need to sit back, take a break and celebrate ourselves and everything we do, even if for just a moment. After all, your beautiful life is in progress, and what’s the point if you can’t enjoy it every once in a while?

We’re creative people, and we get in the habit of putting out project after project – moving onto the next thing without taking even a beat.

When was the last time you stopped and smelled the roses?

I admire those who have the drive to keep going. But, there’s a difference between being persistent and pushing ahead towards accomplishment after accomplishment … and running yourself totally ragged.

I’m going to blow your mind: If you stop, the world isn’t going to fall apart, and no one is going to replace you. You are one of a kind! You will be more efficient and better equipped to reach your goals if you take a breath, dust yourself off, pat yourself on the back and recharge.

Now, maybe you’re in the middle of a project – a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity that will only be around for a short time. That sort of “get it while it’s hot” situation will happen every once in a while, and sometimes you just have to keep powering through. But just make sure you take some time for yourself each month, quarter or year. Don’t let “get it while it’s hot” become “everything is hot, so I have to go get it!” Be selective, and know when to take some you time.

I know more than anyone that focusing on yourself like this – celebrating YOU by stepping away from the fire – can get tricky when you do what you love. Why would you want to step away?

Think about it this way: When you do what you love, you will feel that same level of energized when you take time off. Bask in a weekend of relaxation at a beautiful resort, enjoy a yummy, decadent meal out, or feel every inch of that massage, knowing that your hard work and joy is paying for all of it. You’ll bring that feeling back with you when you get back into the thick of it, and it will get you through the rough spots!

And there will be rough spots – times when your labors of love will feel like chores, when you feel stuck. Sometimes, these moments are the best times to relax, recharge and celebrate the work you have done. When you take a break and celebrate you and your hard work, you give yourself enough space for the answers about how to get through to the next goal to reveal themselves to you.

So please accept my gift: I joyfully give you permission to plan a getaway party for YOU. Why? YOU are worth it and YOU deserve it.

When the time is right, take a day, a long weekend, a week or even a month. Celebrate! You’re here, and you’re living your dream!


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post title background Grow into Your Greatness with Positive Thoughts

考える女性Stop what you’re doing, and clear your mind.

What are you thinking right now?

What were you thinking right before you clicked on this?

What were you thinking about when you woke up this morning?

What do you think about throughout the day?

Our thoughts have great power. Thoughts can lift you up, or they can bring you down. And they can encourage you to be a mover and a shaker … or to stay stagnant and paralyzed, inactive.

With that in mind, think about this powerful idea:  What we tell ourselves can change our lives.

Try to put that idea into perspective:  As soon as you wake up, what do you think about?

Perhaps you’re one of those lucky people who are always filled with positive thoughts:  “It’s going to be a beautiful day!”

But you may feel like all of us do from time to time, and you might be thinking, “Oh Lord, let me get through this day … I am not looking forward to this day … I cannot wait for this day to be over” the second you open your eyes.

If this describes how you view most of your days, let me get real with you:  You are not giving the day a chance. If you are filled with dread the moment you are conscious, you have already put out dark energy for your day’s journey instead of sending out protective, loving light filled with possibility.

Why are you making it so hard for yourself?

I know, I know. It is not always easy, but as I always say, it doesn’t have to be hard.

Schakelaar negatief naar positiefThe truth is, we have a choice about how we decide to think. We can think in whichever way we choose, no matter what anyone says to us and no matter what chaos is going on around us. We get to work with our thoughts for the better, and this means we can change our negative thoughts into positive thoughts.

You have the power to see yourself for who you really are instead of be the person your negative thoughts are trying to turn you into.

Negative thoughts can tell you lies.

“I can’t do this.”

“I am ugly.”

“I am not good enough.”

This day is going to be horrible.”

“I am not worthy.”

But positive thoughts can reveal who you truly are and support you as you shine your light into the world.

“I can do this.”

“I am beautiful.”

“I am great and have all the resources I need.”

“This is going to be a wonderful day filled with opportunities.”

“I am worthy.”

believe in yourselfIf changing the way you see your day scares you, or if you fear the possibility of disappointment, let me tell you, this shift in your thinking WILL change your life.

And changing your thinking is this:  When you have a negative thought, at any point in your day, go in there and figure out how to flip that negative into a positive.

It might take some practice, and you might have to spend some time convincing your mind that these new happy thoughts are true, but just go with it! Everything new takes some time to get used to. Knock out those negative thoughts and tell yourself the truth of your greatness. Even if you don’t believe it at first, you will eventually grow into it. You ARE worthy!

Now let me ask you:  Which negative thoughts are you going to wipe out today to boost you up and allow you to grow into the greatness you deserve? Which positive thoughts and affirmations will you fill yourself up with?

Tell me in the comments!

Wishing you the very best today and every day!

 


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  1. Claudette Parker
    July 2, 2016 at 6:48 am

    I will focus on today that I have breathe in my body life itself I am thankful! I am a miracle.

  2. Claudette Parker
    July 2, 2016 at 6:52 am

    Thank you for the encouragement. The work of spirituality is a good seed to sow.

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post title background Life is a Miracle

Jackpot with stars on white background - High quality 3D RenderI am always fascinated by human life and the science of anatomy. And you know what? Science proves just what miracles we all are. Just the fact that you are here means you won the lotto!

Think about it:  Hundreds of millions of sperm are released, and each sperm tries to go for the egg, but only one can win. Some sperm die, and others get lost while swimming the equivalent of several miles to the egg.

Finally, one lucky sperm penetrates and fertilizes the egg. And life has begun … your life.

The egg and the sperm join to make you the human being you are. Those two small cells come together, and a miracle begins. 23 chromosomes from Dad, and 23 from mom combine to give you the gift of DNA that will give you life. This is the fragile place where you once began before you turned into the little human being you once were.

Красивая беременная девушкаAs the months pass inside your mother’s body, so much could have happened — so much could have gone wrong. Yet, still, you developed into a healthy, thriving embryo.

Even before all your organs developed, your heart was beating. You had the pulse of life! (And I often think we connect with our hearts first in life because it is the first organ we get in the womb.)

And as an embryo, you began to develop into a fetus. Where there once was nothing, there was now a fetus — alive and kicking in the mother. You became something special that could be felt and seen.

And even as your mother hit the last trimester, and you got ready to emerge into the world, there were so many things that could’ve gone wrong. But guess what? You are reading this! You survived! You are here.

Certainly, when you were first born into the world as a baby, you were fragile. But you made it through those delicate baby years, and then you even made it through your childhood. You learned to be alive and to live in the beautiful world.

Sperm and EggAnd then, after all you’d been through, you gained your independence and began to express your personality, your purpose, your light and all you fought through to come into this world — those important and unique pieces of you that you still carry with you right now. As I say in my song “Pledge to Love You”:  Share, create and express. You came to do this. You have the chance and the gift of life.

Knowing what an amazing and miraculous thing it is that you are here, what are you waiting for? What is holding you back from living a beautiful, blessed and powerful life?

I’m not saying we don’t all have issues. But I am asking you to think of all the strength that has been inside you since your conception. Think of why you came here and about your life’s purpose. Are you really going to give that up now, after all you’ve endured?

I believe with all my being that we all came here for a reason, and I, for one do not want to waste my breath of life. Because, the harsh reality is that just as we are fortunate to be given life, so shall we perish. And at the end, I always say I would like to have tears of joy for what I did in this life instead of tears of regret. And we all have an opportunity to experience this joy every day!

Because, it’s true:  You’ve won the lotto, because you are here! Now, find something magical to do with your winnings!

What do you want to leave behind? What is your legacy? It is different for everybody. But, what do you want your name to represent? What is your light, and the light you will leave for your children?

What do you want to do in this world?

 


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