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I’ve had something on my mind lately, and I wanted to talk about it with you: Respect.

Can you say you respect yourself?

This question comes up in my work with clients, and I definitely talked about it in my book, The 5 Star Points of Success. But it’s also a question I ask myself when I’m taking a moment to check in with myself and connect with my spirit.

When I’m thinking about a word and what it means to me, I usually head for the dictionary. So, let’s see what “respect” means. Here are two definitions:

“A feeling of admiring someone or something that is good, valuable, important.”

“A feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc. and should be treated in an appropriate way.”

With those two meanings in mind, do you respect yourself?

So many people worry on a daily basis about not getting the respect they deserve. They point fingers at a boss, boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, children, friends. They find someone to blame for disrespecting them.

But is it really everyone else, or do you struggle with self-respect? Is it really everyone else being rude, abusive and disrespectful?

Maybe it is. But just humor me for a minute: Step outside the things that are being said and done to you for a moment and check in with yourself.

Let me give you a scenario: Someone is abusive to you. Someone curses at you, says mean things about you and belittles you.

What’s your response?

Maybe you say, “How dare you!” or “The nerve!” and call them out. Your reaction is probably to get upset.

Before you do that, think about it. Are the judgments they are making about you true? Probably not!

If these harsh judgments are not true, why are you allowing them to hurt you?

Maybe their words hurt because they sound a lot like the words going around in your own head about yourself. It probably hurts a lot to hear those words out loud!

If you’re having these negative thoughts about yourself, the real issue is probably that you think you’re not worthy.

The real issue is you think you are not worthy. And then, when your boss says you don’t deserve the raise, you totally flip out in anger. But is it just because they told you exactly what you are thinking?

In order to get respect you must give it. This is an old saying, but it is absolutely true. Respecting others is important, but life isn’t only about “doing until others as you want them to do unto you.” You have to “do unto yourself” as you want them to do unto you, too!

The actions we take and thoughts we think and how we respect ourselves will determine how other people will treat us.

So don’t you dare skip yourself when you’re looking for people to give respect to. The more respect you give to others AND to yourself, the more you’ll get back. When you respect yourself, you’ll feel that good energy flowing everywhere!

I’m not saying other people aren’t wronging you when they’re saying negative things about you. There’s definitely such a thing as slander and defamation of character, and it doesn’t only happen to people who don’t respect themselves or put out negative vibes. If you know all that good energy is flowing from you, and someone is still after you, the best defense is pretty simple: Respect yourself enough to live your life like the wonderful, talented person you know you are.

Here’s your Star Point for this week: Try a little self-respect! Know that your light is worth shining, and decide your purpose is to share your many gifts with the world. If you do, I guarantee that others will respect you. You’ll see your dreams come to you all over the place in both your personal life and your business!

This week’s Star Action: This one might be a little tough, but I promise you it’s worth it! Think of a situation you were in recently where you didn’t stand up for yourself. Write down what happened and how you responded … or how you DIDN’T respond.

Now, think of that same situation and write down a response you could’ve had that honors yourself and all the dreams you have for yourself. Even if sometimes it’s too late to go back and change the situation, just reflecting on it and identifying what you can do to show respect to yourself and honor your life’s purpose can help you learn from your mistakes and proceed with confidence the next time you are in a situation that dims your light. Never forget that you are worth it and you deserve respect!

Make sure to let me know what’s happening with you! Comment here, my Facebook page or YouTube channel. Spread the love by sending these messages to your friends!

And remember, Rays of Light … don’t let anyone or anything dim your light! Go out and Shine like the Star You Are!

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