I meet so many people who have given up on the dreams they had as little kids, because they have been repeatedly told those dreams are crazy, or that living them out is not realistic. They have been brought down by those who have told them they need to lower the bar for what they can imagine and achieve in order to avoid disappointment. But I have personally come to discover that there is no such thing as a crazy dream. And it has become one of my greatest missions on earth to share my own experiences with others to help them learn how to create real action steps that will help them manifest their dreams. Because, once I fully committed to the idea of living my dream – that beautiful dream that had been inside me since I was a little girl – my whole life began to change for the better.
I want to share a little bit with you about how I took my childhood dreams and, as an adult, turned them into a reality. I want to give you some insight into how I became the woman, artist, life coach, inspirational speaker and the joyful, spiritual student of life that I am today.
Because I grew up surrounded by music, singing has been a natural part of my life since I was three. And wanting to help people feel good about themselves and smile was also deep in my soul at an early age. My mother often reminds me that I used to use my voice to cheer people up when they were sick. I would see them lying there, miserable, sometimes even in their final days, and I would stand tall and strong and sing, delighted to see them smile, even if only for an instant. As I grew up, I continued to visit the sick through different organizations and share the gift of my voice. And I even did this for my father and then my grandmother as they embraced their last moments, always believing wholeheartedly in the amazing power of music as a vehicle to express and share kind and loving words. It was always my belief that somehow music could transcend and boundaries to spirit that we thought existed.
As a little one, there was no doubt I was moved by music. But I was also moved by psychology and, once I did some research, knew it was something I wanted to study. I discovered that this discipline helped people feel happy and balanced, and that it could help people accomplish amazing things, heal, stay married and overcome huge obstacles. I suddenly knew that if I could learn the intricacies of psychology and mix it with my love of music and entertaining, I would have something amazing and special, even though I wasn’t sure exactly what the combination of those elements would look like yet.
Once I felt like I’d built a solid case for this idea of what I was going to do with my life, I sat my parents down to share it with them. I was excited that I was going to perform, sing, act and be a psychologist. They looked at me, and then each other with a blank face, because they did not know how to respond or what on earth I was talking about.
Needless to say, this blank stare did not feel good. Certainly, my parents loved me. But I knew what they were thinking: “That’s nice, honey … That’s a cute little dream, but …” My family came from a place where they believed that you should get your high school education and then get a good state job with benefits. They were not keen on going after your “pie in the sky” dreams. When they didn’t know what to say, I came to realize it was simply because they didn’t understand what I was telling them.
I was greeted with that same face for many years – by blank stares and people telling me I was “crazy.” While many times, I have felt discouraged and the journey has sometimes been challenging, those many blank stares have only strengthened my resolve to go after what is deep in my heart. Through all my adventurous years, I have followed through with what I wanted to do, even when everything was not perfect and I wasn’t even totally sure I was still successfully carrying out my plan to find happiness through achieving my dreams. But it was the obstacles that clarified – and continue to clarify exactly what is most important and how I focus on everything I want to make happen in my life.
So, I officially pursued psychology, earning my BA and then my Masters in Spiritual Psychology. And it was after I had accomplished this that everything inside me and around me came full circle and all of my experiences began to solidify into a real purpose.
Several years ago, my grandma passed away on Christmas, and her funeral was January 3 – my birthday. I was devastated. I had plans to go to Mexico and celebrate a childhood friend’s wedding, but instead, I had to be at a funeral. So, not only did I miss out on reconnecting with dear friends and celebrating my birthday, but I also had to be at funeral for the matriarch of my family, filled with tears and pain and when I had not even had a chance to completely process the profound impact of my father’s passing. I thought, “Great, just great.”
Then, I was asked to sing at my grandma’s funeral. I thought, “Double great …” I was told it would mean so much to my grandma and would bring joy to those there. Still, I could only wonder why all of this was happening to me all at once.
Somehow, I did not become conscious of what this difficult experience was illuminating for me until I looked at myself in the mirror on the day of the funeral. My purpose hit me: “This is what I am here for.” Those early days of me singing for those struggling with illness and difficulties came flooding back as I stood before her coffin, preparing to sing once again. I started singing words that were not even in the song I had planned to sing, but were coming from my heart at that moment. I realized I was fulfilled, whole and connected. I was dialed in, strong and channeling pure LOVE.
So many people approached me that day, so joyful and shared with me that they had heard me sing before, and that I had always sounded fabulous … but there was something about this performance that had been particularly special. My grandma had given me the biggest birthday gift I have ever received since I was born: The adult awareness of my life purpose.
I also realized then that I had really looked at death and as a result, connected with my own life. I asked myself some very serious questions:
Who am I, and what have I done?
What am I doing?
What can I do that is heartfelt in this life?
And I wondered, if I were on my deathbed like my father or my grandmother, what would I want to say I used my blessed life to do?
Thinking about these questions and answering them was such a life-changing moment and made everything so clear that, to this day, I still use this experience as part of the guided process I take my clients through in order to help them get really clear about what they want in their lives. I ask them, “What do you want to do?” “What do you want to complete in your lifetime?” “What truly brings you joy?”
After I discovered what I truly wanted to do with my life, I sat in that awareness for some time. I declared, “This is it. I am going full force with what has always been in my heart since I was a little girl.” And from that day on, I have been working every single month, every week, every day, every hour and every minute on manifesting my dream.
So, you can see that my journey has been challenging, but that ultimately, deciding to go for it is simple. My success is based on the fact that I am living my dream. I feel whole and delighted to wake up every day and do what I love doing while bringing others around me joy. To prosper from my dream took some courage. But if you are not courageous about your own life, what else is there to be courageous about?
Life is our gift. There is nothing more to do with life than to live it fully and come here to do what you were meant to do. Why be afraid or let someone knock you down? Why give into the blank stares and live a life that is less than extraordinary? You have to believe in yourself, even when others do not.
If you really have talent in a certain field, you have to go for it. You can’t let the years pass, saying, “Shoulda, woulda, coulda.” Don’t say, as I do in one of the songs I wrote, “I should have appreciated you” later to your spirit when it is your last days and you wish you had tried harder. Instead, live how you want to with love, honor, integrity and respect for yourself and others.
Dreams can be fun when you sleep, but they are so much more exhilarating when you live your dream with your eyes open wide. I am living proof that over time, your dreams can come true in the real world. And I have even more dreams that I am looking forward to manifesting in divine time. Even though it took some time, I figured out how to beautifully fuse music, arts and psychology into what I do today. What once seemed “crazy” is now my graceful way of life.
So, live your dreams while you are asleep and awake! And above all, love the life you live!