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post title background How to be a good listener

Listening is probably one of the most important skills you can develop in both your personal and professional life. No matter what industry you’re in, you will need to be able to listen to your clients and what they want so you can use your gifts to fulfill their needs.

Have you ever had a bad experience with someone who lacks listening skills? Isn’t it FRUSTRATING? We’ve all been in the situation – when we’re trying to purchase a product or a service or even when we’re just trying to communicate to a friend or a romantic partner – where we talk, and nothing seems to get through. Our words aren’t heard and things really go nowhere!

When your clients come to you, I encourage you to listen to them. You’ll also need to listen for clues that tell you what they want and how you can help them manifest what they want. Not everyone is great at communicating what they need and want, so sometimes you have to be able to let your ears dig a little deeper!

At the end of the day, your clients just want to be heard. When they feel heard and know you genuinely care, you’ll win them over for life!

Listening is truly a skill. If you want ultra fabulous listening skills, you have to work hard at them!

Learn to access your caring, empathetic emotions. When you truly care, you will become a part of the project the new client or collaborator is asking you to join in on. You’ll both feel totally invested, at east with each other and on the same page from the get-go!

Listening skills aren’t only for listening to your clients, collaborators and other people in your life. They are also for listening to yourself. Without your emotions in play, any dream you have is not going to work!

I’m going to say something bold that might go against what you’ve learned: You are the most important person in your life.

Does this sound selfish? It’s not! So many of us are taught our whole lives that we are supposed to take care of everyone else before ourselves – that this selfishness is to be admired and celebrated.

Are you a natural caretaker, always putting everyone else’s thoughts, feelings and needs before your own? I’m here to give you permission to start thinking about YOU.

I know putting yourself first is not easy. People need you! But we all need to reprogram ourselves and realize that we cannot truly care for anyone else unless we are putting our needs and emotions FIRST.

How can you understand and respond to the physical needs of someone else if you haven’t even listened to and heard the voice inside you, connecting you to your own needs? Blindly putting others’ needs before our own will not get us anywhere!

I am absolutely not saying, “Be selfish! Think only of yourself!” No way! We are all in this life together. We are vibrant and engaged beings who need to listen to each other and respect others. Therefore, we can’t just adopt a “me, me, me” attitude and run over everyone who gets in our way.

All I’m saying is that you need to listen to yourself first and be conscious of your emotions and what you need in your life to be joyful and present, to live a life in which all your dreams come true.

This life is right there within you! Listen close to the voices that are telling you to go for your dreams and go out and live the way you were meant to live!

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.

Please make sure you check out THE OYA SHOW and subscribe on my youtube channel spiritofoya for more uplifting and positive messages to you be successful and shine like the star you are!


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